Man & woman – we have been created to do more than just replenish the Earth. We have been designed to create relationships, to assist one another to interact inter-dependently. We are hardwired for relationships. We can survive on our own – or is this an illusion? Who fixes our car, drives the truck that brings the food to the grocery store – and then who stocks the shelves? Who makes the shoes that we walk in?
Most women recognize we are hardwired for relationships – whether it be with women or a desire for a man – men seek & desire a heartfelt relationship too, whether they are aware of it or not. We need relationships – all of us. Being hardwired for relationships is not a sign of weakness. It only becomes unhealthy & dysfunctional if we are unable to function in our day to day life when we do not have one, especially if we rely solely on one person to meet all of our needs for socialization or fulfill us as a distraction toward our own personal development.
I believe we must first begin the initial trial of the relationship by waiting to see what is there before we succumb to the overwhelming desire to connect to that person physically & completely – to have our eyes wide open to who this person is before we give of ourselves in body, mind & spirit.
It takes maturity, wisdom and patience to allow time to develop a substantial relationship which for some people…they don’t have the developmental skills or emotional capacity to stay long-term. Some are easily distracted by the next attractive person who walks in front of them – especially for those who are seeking the Barbie & Ken model ‘model’, instead of finding love with the person they are with – to see if it could develop into something genuine, real & long-lasting.
Then there are those people who are afraid of commitment who cannot make that next step, have issues that prevent them from participating in a healthy relationship where commitment is the essential component for it to be a success. Or there is that person who likes and may even be addicted to the thrill of a what a new relationship brings (I know that I’ve said this before) – the dopamine level stays at a certain level and is the drug that keeps the person in a perpetual state of this high, without ever coming down to a level of human daily living to experience and deal with all the intricacies within a real relationship.
Just like we all had to start from Kindergarten to graduating College, there comes a point in time when we must embrace the powerful potency of becoming an adult to surrender to Love, to the relationship – to be willing to be work through what may need to be embraced in order to help develop that ’good relationship’ find your way through to the ’sacred ‘; to create and be a safety net for each other, so that you can begin to be open, vulnerable and emotionally intimate – connecting from the heart which is the sweetest of nectars…..
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